In order to create blogs such as this, it is necessary to go on lots of dates. Now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against relationships but I also don't feel the need to assume everyone is "the one" either. Consequently I actually get quite a kick out of being set up, afterall there are really only 3 possible outcomes: 1- it actually goes well and is worth my time; 2- there are no major ups or downs to the night, he's a one-hit-wonder (maybe two) and life rolls on; or 3- he is blog worthy.
With that in mind, I was all for going out with my friend's gym friend.
He called; we talked; in a spontaneous choice we went to sushi night and the he was normal, nice and I did not spend most of the night wondering what my friend thought of me that he thought we would be a good match. He did have a few strikes- 1- he was shorter than me. I know some people think its no big deal but call me traditional or insecure but I think height matters; 2- he asked if I was a "bad girl" (let's get real, that is never a good sign); and the big one 3- he felt the need to be a player and to lie about it.
Guys complain when girls play games but girls aren't that different. If you just want to make-out, thats fine, there is a possibility that is all we want to do too. I know the great fear of boys is that we will assume we are engaged the second you say hi to us but most of us are not this intense. Boys like to make-out, so do girls, if you don't believe me, continue reading our blog and that should be reason enough to believe me. So don't feed me a bunch of lines, "I haven't done this in awhile," "I love it when blind dates work out," "this makes me nervous"... ok, you go to the gym 5 days a week at least- at 5 am; you told me all about the gym all through dinner; you are slightly older, your teenage days are behind you, you have been on hundreds of dateyou are decently cute; you dress the part= you are not in a shortage of girls, if I plan to kiss you on the first date none of your lines are necessary, I know your type. You probably know mine. Telling me you will "call me later" and "let's do this again" is not necessary, I also do not need the obligatory text a few days later asking how I'm doing or the infrequent texts telling me you are doing homework. The kissing on the first date spoke volumes, your lines to get to that point buckled with your "nice guy" texts later complicate the situations more than the initial date.
So guys, next time you have an "ok" blind date and you want to take the player approach, just assume that if we aren't trying to track you down frantically a few days later, we are ok with it and please don't confuse us by trying to check up on us, you only confuse us more.
