Group Vote

Ok, I've come to a point that I am in need of some advice. You are welcome to make a comment, cast a vote or both but this needs some outside viewpoints. The more advise the better.

About 2 months ago I met a guy (we'll call him Jason) through work and we started emailing about work, then he started adding a few personal comments and now we email constantly, facebook, etc and work is about the last thing we talk about. The day I met him I had a first date with a guy that I ended up dating for a little while so by the time we started emailing I was in the middle of whatever it was with the other guy and in honesty and full disclosure efforts, I told him about the other guy, but we kept emailing. Just as other guy and I broke it off, Jason met another girl who was really aggressive and pretty soon they were dating. We discussed her frequently and how it was unusual for him to have a girl so aggressive when his usual style is much slower and he prefers to get to know girls better up front. From what he was saying I thought she was playing him (turned out, I was right) but he wasn't ready to see that so we kept emailing (we didn't talk about her constantly but she came up) about 2 weeks ago when things with the girl started going south he started asking me about the guy I'd been dating (by then we were long since over) and I told him it was an old story but totally done. He wanted to know if there were any other guys in the mix for me, I told him no. (I'm assuming by "in the mix" he was referring to people I was actually dating not emailing)

Last weekend (Friday) the girl called it off it with him. She met someone else and had been dating them both. (shocker) This made Friday the first day that we were both available and we both knew it. We emailed on FB all day, we IM-ed till 2 am, Sunday we FB emailed again and that brings me to the question here. What do I do next?

The problem:

Since I met him at work I have to be a little more careful that I normally would. (we don't work together, he's a potential client) so technically he needs to initiate anything that does, or doesn't, happen. He is a slow mover and I tend to not be (otherwise this blog wouldn't exist) on the other hand, a slow mover may be just what I need, it has been 2 months of constant, and hundreds, of emails so it really isn't jumping into this either. From his stories of the other girl I think he likes slightly more aggressive girls which once I get to about this point I can do just fine but again, work complicates this.

I'm going to assume that he would not email me so much if he wasn't interested, that would be a major waste of his time. Some of his emails are pretty personal, we talk about anything and everything.

Here's the possible next steps I see:

1- Just keep emailing, he'll do something eventually, right?

2- Find a way to switch to texting (If you think I should do this, I welcome suggestions as to how I'm going to do this) and see if he will take the rest from there.

3- Invite him to do something that I'm already doing, if I was already going, work can't be mad!

4- Just flat out ask him out and ignore the rules. Up till the last girl he went months without going on a date so the aggressive type may not be all bad for him... (I do like my job though)

5- Something else...

What do you think?

Creepy McCreeperson Award

I have to give mad props to Mormon boys in Utah who are into their professional careers and still single but out to meet girls through their everyday life. In a place where 50-75% of the population is claiming to be Mormon and we have one of the lowest average ages for marriages its a little tricky to tell who is available and who is off the market and who doesn't have the same priorities. So to every guy that has met a girl through professional workday routines and asked her out I am impressed. I'm even more impressed though if it went well.

Today I was walking into a company I work with and standing on the front staircase is a guy I'd guess to be in his late 20's or early 30's waiting out front for someone. As I was supposed to meet someone I will admit taking a moment to look and see if he was who I was meeting. He wasn't. I found my contact, went in and took care of what I needed and was headed back to my car down the stairs when he came walking back up. Just as he passed me he commented "Isn't this great weather" to which I turned and replied that It was and I wished it would last for a few more months and he informed me it wouldn't. so far so good. unfortnatly this was the only truly normal point in teh conversation.

him: do you work here?
me: no, they are a client of ours.
him: how did you get into your job? Don't you love sales?
me: yes, I love what I do
him: so what other companies do you work with, do you come here often? (isn't that a line used at bars?)
me: lately I come here a lot, I work with companies all along the Wasatch Front though
him: so where do you live?
me: Utah county...
him. oh cool. What's your name?
me: my name is sarah
him: nice to meet you. (he shook my hand and stepped back. he had a VERY WEIRD handshake. major annoyance of mine)
me: so your name is...?
him: Dave.
him: so who do you live with?
me: friends
him: oh fun, how often do you see your roommates or family?
me: (creep-o-meter going off) pretty often
him: oh, ok. are your roommates boys or girls?
me: girls
him: oh, well ok. That sounds like it would be cool. i like to go to that area sometimes
me: yes my roommates and I have fun.
him: I have a house in Murray, it's 15 minutes to anywhere in the valley from there, Utah county is close. What city do you live in?
me: lehi... (no I don't really live in Lehi, yes I guess that means I lied. It was for a good cause though)
him: that is a pretty area.
me: I think I need to go.
him: You should look me up, I'm always around. (Insert images of him jumping out of the bushed by my office)
me: ...ok...

I'd like to announce that if I disappear, stop blogging, can't be reached by my phone or anything else, come looking for me and then go question Dave "around" the company. Report him to the police.

And Dave, next time something like: "want to grab something really quick" or "want to get together and talk more sometime" would both have been much more normal and I probalby would have said yes but instead, you won the Creepy McCreeperson Award for today.